“An optimist is a person who sees only the lights in the picture, whereas a pessimist sees only the shadows. An idealist, however, is one who sees the light and the shadows, but in addition sees something else: the possibility of changing the picture, of making the lights prevail over the shadows.”
~ Felix Adler
Whenever there will be light, shadows will certainly follow. Neither can go while the other stays. Accept that. Understand that. I wish that your new year is full of light and may you have the strength (and love) to deal with the shadows. [I too heartily accepted this ...just... while writing this post..!]
Good wishes to you.